Are you a godly friend?

II Samuel 1:26 “I am very distressed for your, my brother Jonathan; very pleasant hast thou been unto me …”

Here in the text, David’s heart is vexed and heavy for the loss of his friend Jonathan. How ironic that his greatest friend came from the loins of one of his greatest enemies. Jonathan cared deeply for David. An “associate,” as opposed to a true friend, will tell you, “Girl, you know I got your back,” but you never see her around. In contrast, Jonathan, without fanfare, manifested his friendship to David. He gave to David his tunic, robe and belt as a covenant of their friendship.

Jonathan was not jealous of the anointing on David’s life, nor the fact that it was David (and not he, the son of the King) who God intended to elevate to the throne (I Samuel 20). Jonathan made excuses for David’s absences and set in motion a plan concerning shooting arrows into the sky to let David know when the wrath of King Saul had cooled. In fact, Jonathan planned to have a place in King David’s administration as second in command but never got to see such a day come into fruition. No doubt David’s heart was saddened at the loss of such a friend.

Godly friendship means you are in for the long haul. Fake friends and “associates” run if you come upon trouble, sickness or adversity. Jonathan could have easily saw the conflict between his father and David and said, “I’m not getting involved in that mess!” Often times, associates are there for us during the times where we are recognized or rewarded. Yet, they are noticeably absent during a rejection, failure, loss of a loved one or financial setback.

When our tables are spread with bounty, there are never enough chairs around to accommodate. When our tables are bare, associates don’t know our address. Godly friends rejoice in our victories and are saddened in our moments of distress. Godly friends are not with us just for the “fishes and loaves.” What is more, godly friends desire to see us prosper! They are secure in themselves, and they know the same God that gives to you will also give to them.

David and Jonathan – a great example of a godly friendship. My prayer is, “Lord, help me to find more godly friends by being one.”

May you be blessed!

Andrae P. Crismon Sr. is the pastor of Higher Ground Worship Center, Church of God in Christ, in Murfreesboro and the author of “Lord, Keep My Mind Clean: A 31 Day Devotional & Accountability Journal.” He can be reached at

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